Over the past month I have done four workshops with the congregation (men, women, and youth) at la Iglesia Presbiteriana Emanuel. It is not the end, but only the begining of my work and their`s. At the request of the pastor and moderator of the Ayacucho Presbytery, Rev. Juan Quispe Flores, they were all on domestic violence and what the bible does or does not say. I knew I couldn`t cover everything so I tried to be direct and to the point. Let us not dance around anything. That is the exact opposite of Latino culture, communication, and frankly homeletical method, which is more like a cyclone that finally comes to and makes a point after mucho Blah, Blah, Blah. Pastor Juan and I talked and reflected a lot about domestic violence and scripture before doing the workshops. He said ¨One of the women in my congregation asked me why was the bible machista?¨ He told me he had trouble responding, and couldn`t help but chuckle at this women`s direct approach and line of questioning. I said ¨I love her already, who is it?¨ He wanted to begin equipping his congregants to combat domestic violence and abuse first in their own homes and church and then move out into the wider community, reaching out to their neighbors and saying ¨This isn´t right, and the church will no longer be silent on this issue. Women AND Men are children of God, made in God`s image.¨ He, and I wanted them to be aware that domestic violence is not just physical or ¨hitting¨someone. It is any combination of physical, emotional, sexual, and economic related (think money) threats of using or actions used to control, intimidate, or coerce another person with whom you have a relationship with.
One of the things that we (really I so far in my department of 1.5 people) are doing with churches through Paz y Esperanza is trying to encourage ALL people to take a look at and maybe try reading the sacred texts that we all know, those we DO NOT know, and maybe the scriptures we THINK we know, but to read them through the eyes of gender. See Irene Foulkes article, Rereading the Scriptures through the Eyes of Gender. For instance try reading Psalm 55:12-14 through the eyes of a victim of domestic violence and abuse:
12 It is not enemies who taunt me— I could bear that; it is not adversaries who deal insolently with me— I could hide from them. 13 But it is you, my equal, my companion, my familiar friend, 14 with whom I kept pleasant company; we walked in the house of God with the throng.
or maybe try reading Ephesians 5:22-23through the eyes of a woman in a male dominated household or machista society:
Standing between two fires, that must be what it is like to be or have been a victim of domestic violence, turn to clergy or the church and have the thing you trusted most in the world, scripture, used as a weapon against you or to support the abusive nature of your relationship or marriage.
It is certainly what it feels like to stand infront of men and women who`s culture says or tells them: Men are the head of the house, the kings of the castle...that means they are in charge and that women will and must do whatever they say (and that is not mutual). That is the danger and risk of proof texting or taking little slivers or single lines of texts from the bible instead of more complete stories or passages.